What to do When You Suspect a Cheating Spouse
12:07 AM | Author: Gilaster
By Fositi Dassill

Just because you have proof does not mean that you will confront them with what you have discovered. That decision is yours and yours only. It is a possibility that you will get lots of advice from your friends on what to do. Just remember to always consider the source when someone gives you information, this is very important. Everyone has a motive and the person that is giving you the information (whether it is good or bad) may just have an ulterior motive. Just keep in mind to always consider the source of the information you are getting. Just remember to get your facts straight when confronting your partner and keep it brief. Do not be accusatory or jump to conclusions. If the relationship is important to you and it is worth saving, think long and hard before you do anything rash. If you see something that looks suspicisous on your mates phone, see a strange name or number on his desk, check it out. There are many places on the internet you can do a people or reverse lookup search. Sure it will cost money, but how much is your sanity or relationship worth?

Be prepared for what you may find out, the truth is often not pretty. You need to prepare yourself for what life is going to be like after your relationship if you choose to leave or divorce. It would be very difficult to tell when an emotional or online affair ever spilled over into the physical world, or if it even ever would. You basically need to decide if you consider this an affair and something that you can overcome and need to act upon.

If and when you have proof that your partner is having an affair it is up to you to decide if you want to confront that person. When and if you do, do not become accusatory or throw accusations out, in other words do not be in an angry mode or hostile towards the person, it can only make things much worse for you in the end. It is much better to come from an open place and tell your partner you are suspecting these things and you want to know if they want to fix it or not. If you sense some distance, ask them what is gong on. It is your life with this partner that is at risk, ask questions but do not be hostile towards the other person, it makes matters much worse.

Hostility always leads to trouble and it is not a good way to let your partner know what is going on. Knowledge is power and it is up to you to decide what you want to do with it. Do you want to end the relationship because of what has happened or do you really love the person and it is something that is forgivable. It may depend if there was physcial contact or if it was restricted to cyberland only.

The best thing for you to do is keep your cool when you catch or otherwise suspect your spouse is cheating. Do not be disappointed if he or she tries to tell you that it is your fault or otherwise starts to blame or turn the tables on you. It is best to remain calm and not get hostile about the situation.

If you want closure and want to finally see what your spouse is up to, whether they are cheating or not, then you need to get to the bottom of what is going on. A paid reverse phone number search will do the trick. There are countless ones on the internet, do a search on your favorite search engine to find the best options. - 20761

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